Im still trying to negotiate a career change. Its not that i dont love being a librarian but i had envisioned working in a school where i could help kids with their work. That hasnt happened. So i think it might be time to gain a new skill and branch out. I love design so looked into Graphic design, as i love designing on the computer, but a Cert 4 is $2500 and i cant front that right now. Then a friend mentioned that she is a school teacher but also designs learning material on her website, www.littlelifelonglearners.com it looks great.
Basically what i would like to do but lack the skills to know what makes good learning material. So, is it worth doing some sort of early learning course? The reason i havent done one before is they arent available online. You need to do several long placements which is too hard with my full time job and now a little one in tow. So i think until he goes to school, thats out of the question. But that doesnt mean that i cant do some research myself. I can read books and search the web for information on early learning. I would like to design my own teaching tools for Rue but then i think that Casey has done the work for me so is it really necessary?? I already printed off a heap of coloring patterns and easter folding basket patterns etc before i left work. Might be time to start stocking it up a bit more.
I just read an article which has alarmed me. I found it on pinterest (love!) and it was about when your little man stops wanting to go into the ladies room with you and wants to use the mens room. I clicked on it thinking, yes, hadnt thought of that. But omg its given me a whole new stress. Apparently her concern was that he would be molested in there…is that seriously a thing!!! I mean that hadnt even occurred to me!!. This was an american article so im hoping Aussie men are a little more trust worthy. My concern before reading this was that he would pee on the floor or not know what a urinal cake was. My solution at this stage is either the parents room so i can see him go in and out of the loo. Or the disabled toilet. Im yet to see a disabled person use one so im pritty confident i wouldnt be inconveniencing anyone. Back up is the first few times make sure dad is there to go in with him and teach him the ropes.
But this got me thinking about other things mums of boys have to worry about. I mean, i dont have a penis. When do i give him the talk because it involves things that im pritty sure happen earlier for boys than girls. Like wet dreams. And dont play with it in public. Laugh if you will but i remember several little boys in primary school who would whip it out in class and have a play. I could always leave it up to his dad but i think he would hate having to do that talk so i think it will fall to me. We gave my brother the book, Where did i come from, when he started asking. He handed it back and said ‘yeah right’ and it took us several days to convince him it wasnt a joke. So im thinking an educational movie might be the go to ease him into the idea. In year 6 our school broke us into two groups, boys and girls, to discuss puberty because one of my friends got her period and she was the first ever in that school. They had to install a special sanitary disposal bin for her. So they sat us down and showed us a pad and opened up question time. Then in highschool we got shown the puberty video about boobs and voices changing and hair growing etc. Then we got the gross video. Did you ever get it? Its the one where the old dood tells us about sperm and says, here is some i collected myself this morning…dood! We didnt need to know that was yours, you could have just said, here is some sperm!
So anyway, i think there will be a few talks. Maybe along these lines:
- 1-3yrs keep it in your pants. Girls have a vagina.
- Primary school – kissing and bad touch. Ie. don’t touch other people. Don’t let them touch you.
- Late primary – Where do babies come from? Body image.
- Highschool – Erections and emissions. Puberty (voice, hair). Urges and safe sex (i know its a little early for sex but i would rather he know). I will also explain a little about what girls are going through so he isn’t clueless.
- Late highschool – Safe sex, diseases, teen pregnancy. Realities of becoming a father. (scare him off the idea for a few years)
- I will let his friends tell him about porn. I think this is something kids need to think their parents dont know about :P
I would much rather have the period talk than the erection talk but, im the mother of a boy. I will use alot of books to do the explaining i think. Awkward talks by late primary are not helpful. Might see if i can find a copy of, Where do i come from?
At this point Rue may be crawling before he sits up. He will sit if he is in my lap but as soon as i try sit him on the ground he tries to reach for things and topples. Yet, today i caught him pushing up with his arms and actually get his knees under him. He is desperate to be up and moving around after the dogs. He gets super excited when his cousins are running around.
I also had another drama. My laptop got a virus and had to be completely wiped. I only just got it back. Thankfully with a virus i was able to transfer my files to my external harddrive before we wiped it. With previous laptops they crashed never to be started again so im thankful i got the chance to save this one. An important tip, email your important files to yourself. That way if your computer chucks it in you arent left in the dark. For me this means my writing files (im a published author under another name) and my photos.
Now that christmas is over i can share the bastard quilt. So named because it was way too big for me to manage. It turned out better than i thought but not as good as i wanted. My sister loved it though.
You cant see it very well in this pic but the point of this quilt was the free motion image in the center. It turned out great but is kind of hard to see so next time i will make it darker and more bold.
This was the image i was aiming for. As you can see its quite a bit different and i think it would have worked better as a single size quilt so i could focus more on the design and less on finding enough fabric to fit it.
It was the year of Rue. He got more presents than i can count. Which was quite funny as my step mum said that she didnt spoil him this year but would next year, i hate to think how many presents he will get!
Highlights were his Olaf doll which he adores. A thomas the tank engine couch, a dinosaur and a bunnykins bowl.
Yes thats right, there will be another Christmas next year. Alot of people forget this when it comes to the post christmas sales. Alot of decorations are 50-80% off. I know that for me i need to stock up on christmas kit. This year was sparse. We have a small tree with no lights and thats it. But not only this its also a good opportunity for birthday and christmas present shopping for next year. Think ahead people. What will you need? Here is my list so far:
- Christmas lights, both indoor and out.
- White christmas tree
- Wrapping paper
- Clothes for Rue, sizes 1 and 2.
- Birthday present for Rue (for July im thinking one of those tee pees)
- A few gifts for Nieces. (aged 3 and 5)
- Possibly some baby items to donate if they are a good price. (Blankets and wraps are always in demand)
- Bed sheets for our bed (BD being a truck driver gets filthy and tar doesnt wash out too well)
- Bonds singlets for BD (Part of any truckie’s uniform)
- Socks for BD (He has 20pairs of the same sock to prevent mismatches but they are getting worn out)
- Shoes for me (i have one pair…yes, seriously)
- Laundry basket (the dog has peed on it a few times so i will have to get rid of it to prevent further urination)
Im hoping to not spend too much on this lot. I won’t buy anything that isnt at least 50% off or a bargain price. Hoping to get the tree for about $20-$30 (rrp $120). Lights maybe under $10 and wrapping paper under $2 a roll. Birthday presents under $10 a piece. Sheets are usually a really good sale item i usually get a doona cover for about $50 (rrp Over $100). But my fave sale item i might have to give a miss this year. I have a love for egyptian cotton bath sheets. The really big fluffy ones. Each year i will generally get two of one color but having moved a few times i seem to have ‘lost’ alot of them so i now have only one of each color and only 3 towels all up and they are losing their plumpness. They normally retail for about $50 a piece but at sales are under $20. But this year other things are going to take priority over towels. We have enough and i am now on my Centerlink maternity leave so money is tighter.
Another item i will look at are party supplies. Not sure if they go on sale or not but as im now a mum i have alot of birthday parties in my future to cater for. Plates, cups, goodie bags and drink dispensers. How cute is this jungle theme:
I am never making a queen size quilt again! Ugh. I have been quilting this thing for weeks and still have a full half to go. My wrists are hurting from moving it around and i think i might use up another spool of thread before im done. Plus i woke up this morning to find the dog had peed on it!!! Thankfully it was on the edge that had some overhang so i cut it off and ill have to wash it before i gift it. Needess to say the dogs spent the rest of the morning outside.
Watching little man and he just nearly flipped back the other way (front to back) go little man!
Im also doing well on a quilt for myself. I found it in a quilting mag and had to give it a go. This is my quilting area, not a bad view on a stormy afternoon.
I have a tree up! I wanted a real tree for the first time ever but BD said no way. He claims they are full of bugs and make a mess. Both points i dont care about but i have to repect his wish as he has to live with it too. So plan B. BD had a fake tree in the garage.
I went for simple. After christmas im going to make the most of the sales and get a big white christmas tree for next year. I am also going to pick up some small potted trees to scatter around the house for next year. I love that idea. That way its not thrown out in January and its festive in more than one room. I had to dog proof this tree so i supported it with these little stools which also served as a resting place for this wicker basket which i can stack the presents in so they wont get chewed on. You might also notice a small hand print ornament. This was made with air dry clay which i picked up for $8 at Bunnings then finished with some gloss finishing spray also from bunnings. Next step will to be to get some twinkle lights up. Love me some twinkle lights. The rest of the ornaments are newish. When i moved to my own place a few years back i realised i had no ornaments so i have bought a few a year. I have a sheep on a wagon from New Zealand, a painting santa and a nutcracker. My ultimate would be a santa in a hot air balloon as it was my fave on mums tree when i was little. Havent had luck finding him yet.
As im trying to save for a house deposit at the moment i have been evaluating what i spend my money on. Right now, my biggest expenses are food and electricity (well BD pays electricity but i consider it a big household cost). So i have only been using the dryer if its nessesary ie if there is washing and its raining and i need to do more washing. But the other one is food. I generally do a big shop on payday of about $200-$300. $100 of that is formula and nappies so its not a cost i can cut back on. But after this shop i find that i still have to go to the shop a few times before next payday to get dinners which is another $200 odd. So this week im trialing a new method. Yesterday i did a semi shop, formula, basics that we were out of and two roasts for dinner. Why roasts? Well BD has added chicken to his list of foods he is sick of. This now makes it mince, chicken, sausages, rice, pasta. Steak, pork and roasts are really all i have left. As Rue is now eating i need to pick up fresh fruit and veg on a regular basis so i thought rather than one big shop i would try just getting 2-3 days worth of meat and dinners at a time. We will see how it goes. Im hoping it not only saves money but encourages me to eat more fresh food.
I actually picked up a few baby food pouches because rue doesnt seem to be liking what i make him. He loves apple and banana but he needs veg too. He loves the sweet vegie one to the point that he was actually opening his mouth for more were as usually i have to trick him into opening up. So im trying a few of the combos they do myself at home. Tonight for dinner he has apple, banana and pear puree. Lets see how it goes :)